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Making Your Relationship a Priority

I often see couples in my office that are feeling disconnected from each other.  We explore and celebrate the good things in their relationship starting from when they first met to where they are today.  During this process, couples begin to identify when they started to drift apart from each other.  Some even are surprised by how long it really has been since they spent time together as a couple with no distractions.  These distractions can come in many forms: children, work obligations, activities, social media, etc.  I often find myself saying things to normalize this type of story so that the couple feels that they are not alone in their struggle.  We all get off track in our relationships and sometimes this can cause a disconnect.  This story is true for many couples and one that I hear way too often.

I often ask myself “what is missing” that we continue to make the same missteps that cause our relationships to become disconnected? What can couples be doing that could help them not make that misstep a big accident. I am not saying that anytime we take a misstep that our relationship is doomed.  Many couples are able to recognize that they are drifting apart but it is what they do after this recognition that counts.  There are many options for couples to turn that misstep into a positive.  It means taking the time to invest in the relationship and recognizing the importance of the relationship over other things.  I think that may be what is missing…the fact that we often do not make our relationship a PRIORITY.

Like I mentioned, there are many ways to turn our missteps into positives.  When we have the tools to turn things around this can make things a lot easier.  I feel that the Bringing Baby Home offers a lot of tools to help you prevent a “big accident.”  It offers you ways to stay connected to your partner through your journey and if you happen to take a misstep you can go back to your “training” the things you learned to stay connected.  My goal is to not have to normalize the story of disconnect that I so often hear.  My goal is to give you the tools to stay connected and when you get off course you have a great road map on how to get back on track.

Enjoy your journey,

Faith

 

The Sound Relationship House

Foundation is defined as “an underlying basis or principle for something.” It is synonymous with thoughts such as: a starting point, the core, and the heart of something. We all strive to build a solid foundation when we think of building a life together.  As we move through time , we are able to recognize the importance of having a strong basis on which our relationship is built.  It helps us to move through things with more confidence and allows us to work together to get through life challenges.

The Gottman’s came up with the concept “Sound Relationship House” which describes what research has shown to be important in building a good relationship.  It provides a strong foundation with concepts that will keep you on track with your relationship. The different parts of the “house” address things such as: a strong friendship base,  how to manage conflict, and creating shared meaning.  These concepts are important to keep in the forefront when making the transition to parenthood.

The Bringing Baby Home program will allow you to take your first steps to building your own Sound Relationship House.  It will provide you with the foundation to ensure that you and your partner maintain a strong and satisfying relationship as you embark on your journey to parenthood.  The BBH challenge will provide you with more information on the SRH concepts and how to begin incorporating them into your daily routine through the “challenge” portion.  Let’s start forming some healthy habits to build the foundation that your new family deserves.  Sign up through the following link Upcoming Events to start building your own Sound Relationship House.

Enjoy Your Journey,

Faith

Challenge Accepted

I came upon this quote the other day “I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.”  I feel most people transitioning into parenthood could benefit from this idea.  The idea that each persons journey into parenthood is different and unique.  In all journeys we may run into a little stormy weather every once in a while.  One of the keys to getting through these storms is being prepared.  As we all know we can not be prepared for every situation that we face BUT if we have a good base of knowledge we can usually figure something out to get us through.  New parents can gain this knowledge through various means.  Some individuals buy books, talk with others, or take a class that is offered through the hospital.  The focus of a lot of these sources varies but typically focuses on how to take care of the baby and the plethora of things that come with their care.  This knowledge base is important and definitely an important part of your journey as a parent.

However, how many of these sources challenge you to take care of your relationship?  Dr. John Gottman and his associates through research have discovered that 67% of couples experienced a precipitous decline in relationship satisfaction in the first 3 years of the baby’s life.  These statistics cause me to wonder if the couple’s sources provided them with a good knowledge base on how to stay connected with their partner as they transitioned into parenthood.  Did the couple feel they had the right tools to “save the ship” through the storm?

The Bringing Baby Home program is a great resource to make sure that your sailing goes more smoothly.  It provides you with a good knowledge base to work through any “storm” you may encounter and keep connected with your partner in the process.  My hope is that participating in this program you will feel more confident in your skills to sail through any weather with your partner and embrace the storm.  I challenge you to make your relationship a priority as you begin this journey.  Sign up now for the March BBH challenge under the upcoming events tab available with this link. Upcoming Events

Enjoy Your Journey,

Faith

BBH Program

Greetings!

I am sure you at this point you are getting curious about what this program is all about.  Having a baby is an exciting time and allows families the opportunity for many new beginnings.  Families will enjoy building new relationships with others, new goals will form, and new dreams will be created.  However, in all this excitement the importance of the relationship between the parents is sometimes lost.  Research shows that within three years after the birth of a child, approximately two-thirds of couples will experience a significant drop in their relationship quality and will have an increase in conflict and hostility.  There are many great programs out there that cover how to take care of our baby BUT not how to take care of the relationship with our partners.   This is where Bringing Baby Home steps in to save the day!  It provides a research-based and research-tested psycho-educational intervention for your relationship.  Check out this short video from Dr. Gottman to see what he has to say about the benefits!  Stay tuned for more information on how BBH can help you in your own journey.

Enjoy Your Journey!

Faith

First blog post

Welcome!

Thanks for joining me in my new adventure! I am super excited to offer some great opportunities for couples to ensure their relationship stays strong throughout their journey together.

My focus for the spring is the Bringing Baby Home program https://www.gottman.com/about/research/parenting/.   Check out this link for more information about the program.  I am a trained leader in this program through the Gottman Institute.  This program is a great resource for those expecting and/or already have a child up the age of 3 years old.

As an introduction to the program, I am offering a “challenge” in the month of March to allow you a sneak preview into what this program has to offer.  For a small fee of $25.00 you will get a weekly newsletter via email that will give you some information and a “challenge” to complete for the week. Feel free to sign up with pay pal under my Upcoming Events link.  You will be invited to a private Facebook group where you can join a community of others going through similar experiences.  When you post in the group about completing your challenge your name will be entered for a chance at the prize which will be drawn at the end of the month.  The more challenges you complete the more chances you have to win!  I may even throw in a few more surprises BUT you will have to sign up to see!

I hope you will join me for this great experience and see how BBH can help you transition smoothly into this next chapter.  IF this is NOT where you are at currently in your journey have no FEAR…I have some more ideas brewing.  So stay tuned and check back often!

Enjoy your journey!

Faith